(Contributed by Malini )
Day before yesterday I had a fight with one of my very close friends and it was kind of a serious fight. Well the good part of it is that we are both back to our normal lives now. So I thought today I will write about friends in our life.
I know very one will agree that friends are important. Maybe when I say important, it’s an understatement. They are the essence of life, the juice, the source of our hidden energies. I am a kind of person who is friendly with almost everyone around me unless and until that person is intolerable. To deal with intolerable persons is just not my cup of tea. But I see many people around me dealing with such persons in a graceful manner and am trying to learn from them.
So I was writing that I had a fight with one of my friends. The reason was that I spoke a little harsh to him over the phone. this friend, lets say X, is a very close friend of mine and X scolded me saying that I was not eating and sleeping on time, was talking too much on phone and all that kind of things. Well he meant for my good only but just as everyone hates advices, I too do and hence got a bit harsh. Hence fight.
That day we fought ferociously and the following day I cooled down but X was adamant. He was neither talking to me nor mailing me. Now the actual tension started. I tried my level best to woo him back to talk to me. But X was very smart. For four continuous hours I was mailing him at a gap of 30 minutes and there was no reply. Then I went for lunch.
Now that I had the delicacies that they served in the office canteen, my brain was revived and I had a great idea. I came back to my seat and immediately mailed X saying that if he didn’t want to continue this relationship with me, he can very well say that and this will be the last mail from my side. It was the most sentimental mail I had written in a life time. I even wrote that it all lies in X’s hands now to contact me or not. It was all his wish. In the end I wrote that I still liked him very much and I will take the memories of our friendship to my grave. Also I wrote a sentence that he could come back to me whenever he wanted and I would accept him as if there were no problem at all.
Now see, this was a fluke mail. I very well know that I will not be able to bear if I lost X. I knew it equally well that X can’t bear it either and will call me or mail me immediately. So it was just a method to woo him to mail me. I was so happy with my new innovative idea. But you won’t believe me what happened next suddenly got some tele conference and left his seat (which I was unaware of). Here I am sitting looking into my mobile phone as if I am seeing it for the first time (of course expecting the great Mr.X’s call). After two more minutes of waiting I could feel the impatience gnawing inside me. As I had written in the mail that I will not be the first person to contact X, I was unable to do anything. Ego was preventing me from mailing X but impatience was also growing.
I checked the sent items. Yes, the mail had reached X .I checked the phone. No, there were no calls from X. In the minutes that followed I literally turned the whole place upside down. Well of course I thought that X had accepted the mail and had decided not to talk to me. There was no one to blame but me. Why did I write that fluke mail. I did not have the slightest clue that he would accept it. I wanted him to call immediately and say “no dear, you are wrong. How can I not talk to you”. But here I was in deep trouble.
I called up X’s closest friend and asked for help or you can say begged for help. He said he will do it and asked me not to worry. (Later on to find out that the friend did not help at all). I was too worried. After around 1 hour our hero’s mail arrived. I worriedly opened it thinking it was the last mail from him. But alas… the mail said “no dear… you are wrong. “How could I not talk to you? I MISSED YOU”. And I was so happy, you won’t believe. Then the whole misunderstanding was cleared when he explained that he had to go for an unexpected tele conference. (I hate that word tele con from now)
What I was trying to say is that you never know the importance of a friend when he/she is near you. You will realize when the person is not in touch for quite some time. You will terribly terribly miss him/her. But in life it may not be possible to have contact with a person for your whole life. As time passes, things change, situation changes and may be friends change. But if you see a person after a long time and still feel happy, then you were real friends.
I know my relationship with X might change with passing time. But what will always remain are the memories, the small fights, the arguments, the mails and of course the care. And when I see Mr.X after many years, I will definitely fight with him again. He can bring out the child in me. But I am sure I will be the happiest person on earth at that moment.
I can never promise that our lives will be the same but I am sure that I will always remember him and cherish the moments we have spent together. Those moments in college and the work place will be etched in my heart forever.
There will be many people coming and going in your life but very few will leave an imprint. X is one of them. He has already left a big imprint (in face one third of that imprint has popped out of my heart. You know the size of the human heart na!) I want to thank X for being such a wonderful friend who has bestowed immeasurable care and love on me that I am not sure if what I am to him in return is enough. I really hope I am.
I wish and truly hope that every one on this earth , small or big, black or white, rich or poor, has a friend like X. above all that, I wish I am like X to at least one person on this earth. Thank you X for being my true friend.
I can never promise that our lives will be the same but I am sure that I will always remember him and cherish the moments we have spent together. Those moments in college and the work place will be etched in my heart forever.
There will be many people coming and going in your life but very few will leave an imprint. X is one of them. He has already left a big imprint (in face one third of that imprint has popped out of my heart. You know the size of the human heart na!) I want to thank X for being such a wonderful friend who has bestowed immeasurable care and love on me that I am not sure if what I am to him in return is enough. I really hope I am.
I wish and truly hope that every one on this earth , small or big, black or white, rich or poor, has a friend like X. above all that, I wish I am like X to at least one person on this earth. Thank you X for being my true friend.
