This afternoon I had a nightmare and woke up with panic. This was because of a comment made by a friends few weeks back. [Some content removed. Yes, I am breaking bloggers promise but privacy comes first].
I always try to avoid such situation when on other side. I would never like to say anything that will make any person feel bad in any way. To be able to achieve such thing I try to keep myself away from all such situations and whenever I get angry I keep my mouth shut. I do not utter a single word about why I am angry, what caused it, what I want to do or how I feel about it. This helps me by not hurting other person. When I am calm and I have all the facts in my hand, I can handle the situation properly and take appropriate actions.
Many will disagree with my approach but I go by the philosophy as portrayed in this doha from Kabir -
Aisee Vani Boliye, Mun Ka Aapa Khoye
Apna Tan Sheetal Kare, Auran Ko Sukh Hoye
Translation– Always speak such words, without losing temper that it helps yourself in calming down and other person feels happy.
I make few but good friends and I believe in treasuring them. Their are instances like these which can cause cracks and things may not go back to normal. Thus, I always go quite when angry.
Update: I appreciate the response I got for this post. But to clarify things, this post is just about how I handle situations, not how/what happened to me. Or not about I am blaming someone.
It is my emotional nature that I am portraying and how I like to prevent such situations. Most of the people will forget such comments and that is good, but for me when I am hurt I take my time to heal. I believe in “To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness” and follow it to fullest. My aim is to make everyone happier.
